Let me state right at the start of this blog that I am not a male chauvinist. On the contrary, I’ve been dominated by strong women all my life. I'm a man, so please bear with me as I write as a man. The views on this blog are not my personal views; but are forced by thoughts of what men believe… but who am I kidding ;) So I ask his question with all humbleness and sincerity… Why do women try to be equal to men?
The rise of female clan in the society has been a good thing overall, but there has been a negative impact as well. We are now a broken society… driven by career and money. The family unity thing is something from the past now. While women have been busy obtaining half of all the stuff that used to be for men, no-one has been looking after the female role. Why is the modern woman so recklessly ready to give up the courtesies that have been due to her for ages? Personally; I' m an admirer of the modern age changes… but women are not men; they are not physically and physiologically the same. I say that the whole problem regarding the equality should not be even taken into account, as the roles have been already decided by nature itself!!!
Women stamp their feet and claim that men oppress them and hold things back, where as in reality… our society was shaped over generations of natural order. Women are now trying to slant the deck against this order, to apply some illogical rules that are purely in their favor. It used to be about recognition for the role of women in the society, but it’s been twisted into some “man hating monster” by the feminists. I know its illogical to even mention them, coz such feminist women are stupid , since they 're not sure themselves about what they want or whom they are trying to stand equal with... the basic flaw of this perception is that they perceive and judge the circumstances according to the laws that are followed by the same men, and they follow those laws to tilt the social system into a male dominated one...
Each and Every human being... man or woman; was created for the same purpose... to fuse body and soul in order to make themselves and their world a better place. Spread Love and positive energy in the Universe. Men are physically stronger. They are more aggressive... In contrast, a woman usually embodies the ideal of inner dignity. All men and women must be themselves. We have been given unique abilities with which to pursue our goals, and that our primary responsibility is to take full advantage of those abilities. The machinery of society is held together by nuts (women) and bolts (men). They are both entirely different, but the same in purpose. They are meant to be joined to build larger machinery. Neither one has any purpose without the other. That’s why...Women are nuts; they feel they're getting screwed...
Men are bolts; they require a lot of torque...
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Before writimg anything about ur blog, it would be interesting to know about the female who has driven you to write such a piece with such a skewed interpretation of female species;)
Its not about "becoming man or manly", its about having opportunities of expresion in every sphere of life. Yes, there is a natural order but it does not mean that the right part of a female brain does not work at all!!
Emile Durkhiem has written treatise about division of labour which more or less pulls the whole society but human beings are not pieces of machine wherein you can create an assembly line production unit assigning "who will do what"!
I think it is all very individual, it is not male or female. Each one of us has the right to explore the world in our own way, as per our abilities and aptitudes. The rest of the segments of the society should just build up around that structure. One possible soultion for a balanced family where the female is too career oriented, may be to have a full time home maker male, whats wrong with that if there are males who are ready to take up such role!!??
Baiju, donnow what brought this on, sure hope it wasn't something I said or did in office!:) But whatever did, it seems also to be driven by your limited view of the world and life's experiences in general. Pardon me also, for being blunt here.But you seem to have seen very lil of the man/woman tussle so to speak.Has it ever occurred to you, that all this upliftment of women and their becoming equals could be driven in part by men who saw comfort in letting their better halves (literally,professionally etc etc or just plain fortunately) carry the burden that they were inadequate to carry all on their own? Fine so whatever the reasons,women moved out of their comfortable nooks and cranies to conquer the men's world, boo hoo! for men.This is how your sentence sounded when I read it:"...but men are not women;they are not psycologically and physiologically the same." If women moving out of their homes and families left a gap there, isnt it because men were just not fit enough to move in and fill it? In this modern age of technological advances, you think women even need men around, for anything? Still,because of their "inner dignity", strength of character(note it takes as much to humour a weak character) and their closeness with nature, they make place in their lives for men with varying degrees of handicaps.
Sure, women are nuts, they are what holds the human race together.And what purpose are you talking about? Women are more than adept at achieving their purpose on their own and getting screwed is not the only thing on their agenda.
Dont get me wrong,I am not a feminist.I think feminism is word coined in the west, where people are quite out of touch with themselves and "mother" nature.Indian (hindu)culture has valued and worshipped womanhood and recognised the fact that woman is more complete than man could ever dream of being.As testimony to that, we still have matriarchal communities where men were so to speak kept in their proper place in the social & familial structure.Though with time these communities have come to imbibe many of the vices & values from surrounding patriarchal societies,the way they treat their women is still a tribute to the all important Shakti(ie female).
Presenting an excerpt from a discussion that elaborates on this:
"ardha+nara+ii+shwara = ardha+nar-i-shwara = ardhanarishwara = the Supreme
To elucidate the above it means that the feminine when combined with nara results in its complimentary half 'nari' and when combined with shwara(that is perishable) results in the divine ishwara. This in itself tells the importance of the feminine that without it teh male is half and perishable and along with the feminine is complete and divine."
Check out the rest at: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080408013823AAqTreu&show=7
And so, I conclude. Women should not try to equal men, because there's no challenge in setting one's sights lower than once calibre! Women are born superior, period.
Regards
Rajani
Look at the energy and feel of the two above comments… HUSH!!!
If the blog was written by a female with a title – Why men try to be women… “Maaro goli yaar!!! Irrelevant topic hai…” that would have been the first reaction of anyone from my clan. That’s the difference. Men never try hard to put their point forward on such issues, coz we know that we are far more superior. Why to debate and waste our energy and time on such an issue ;) Women on the other hand want to prove a point…
Anyhow, the saga of male dominance has never held water since the beginning. Adam was kicked out of Eden Garden because of Eve. Seeta and Draupadi led the foundation of Ramayan and Mahabharat wars. Samson’s superhuman strength was confronted by Delilah. Wise and mighty King Solomon was the hand-puppet of Sheba. Menaka worked her charms on Vishwamitra. (I recall that she abandoned her daughter Shakuntala; can we relate this to the modern day career oriented women) Caesar may have ruled the world but he in turn was ruled by Cleopatra. Adolf Hitler is yet another example. Sahi bola hai… “Behind every successful man there is a woman” Hmm…
And… as a woman would you really want to be like that good-for-nothing in your house; who belches like a cow and leaves food crumbs all over the living room sofa? Na Na Na… you ladies have to go far more than this… ;)
So, dear ladies what I want to say is… you have had the power right from the beginning… and you have been smart enough to allow us men feel comfortable with the fantasy that we are in charge. You have a good thing going on. Don’t try to spoil it. Don’t bring yourselves down by asking for equality.
Rajani, see the effect of your response. This MCP while claming he is not so, has come back to the track;)This is one more expample of the power and influence exerted by women :)
Well My dear friend Baiju, I would like to add something to what you said.
Well no matter what you have said about females, its a Universal truth that we all need Women. May be like Mother, Sister, daughter, wife and so on. Its a story that all men in this world need company from women.
And here are some funny fatcs
1. You dress up well for female ( I don't think so that you do that for males ;)
2. You speak good words, always manners. This is all to impress women.
3. Your mother is still most important person for you in life ( And also for your father ;)
4. There are so many
Just imagine one single day of your life without women ( In any role )
and then revise what you say.
In School days you were fan of Madhuri Dixit, She was a "Female"
Its because of "Females" that we male "Feel Male"
"WOMAN", the word itself is Bigger than "MAN".
I do respect them and believe they are better than man. I was brought in this world by a woman and I believe they are the most respectable form of life and should be looked as “Devi”.
I love and respect my mother a lot but that does not reduce the personality of my father and my love for him. Both males and females are in this world to play their specific roles and complete this life play successfully. Without one of them this play cannot be finished, but if one of them starts feeling they are the complete in themselves than this play will be a flop.
Women have come a long way from the past and they are now doing all those things which were once thought only men can do, but on the contrary if they are equivalent than why are they fighting for reservation, why are they begging for a status equivalent to MAN. “Daan main milli jeet se koi champion nahi hota aur na hi bheekh main mille paise se koi ameer banta hai”. I have always opposed this system of reservation which is meant to uplift the weaker and poorer section of society.
I would not dare to challenge KHALLI for a fight because I know I am weaker than him and cannot beat him and thus woman being the weaker section of society should also not challenge man and compare themselves. Its so pity that to come up this abla nari looks towards man for help. I am proud to be a man not a beggar.
In my words women needs men more than men needs women in life. It is other thing that men accept this but women are afraid to do so.
And for the words from my dear friend Shailendra, if males speak good words and dress properly only to impress their female counterpart than this same can be implied for the females as well.
regards,
vishal
I think all of us didn't understand what Baiju actually wanted to communicate through his blog. I will write my understanding and perception of the same.
He, while respects women for who they are, and how well they perform their duty, only wants to understand why they are not happy doing that? why do they want to challenge 'mother nature' and fight for more 'equal opportunities' just to prove one point.. that they are no less. Of corce women are no less, on the contrary they are 'more' than men, for they give birth, nurture and produce other men and women to continue the society. I am not against the point that women should work or demand their rights in the society. Ofcorce they should, but against the more common eveils in the society, but not just to prove a point. I have known women who give birth, and are back to work in flat three months! In the process they are overexausting their bodies, sacrificing their time with the infant who obviously needs her most during early months, dissappointing everyone in the family and are not around to mould their little ones into well groomed adults. Don't get me wrong, I'm not against working women, I'm working, and so was my mom. But I guess my parents had no other choice. But I have never seen her demanding for equal rights with my dad, or with men in general, for she knew she's stronger than them and needn't ask for anything. She has her own place in the house, in the society. She has been least interested in fiminism, coz she believes life is beyond that. I have known her as a lady who gave up her job for the VRS, to support my dad in funding my brother's foreign education, while both my parents were earning equally. Why? because she could sit at home, not my dad. Because the neighbouhood women would have raised eyebrows and fingers at him. So think about it, it's us who create the thought and rotate it in the society and then challenge it too. I believe both men and women have their own important part to play in this world and both should respect it, coz it isn't transferable, replacable or interchangaeble.
Women enjoy getting screwed because they know men will do anything for that, they are aware that men enjoy showing their dominance. Ultimately who's controlling who? The understandee or understood?
Hey hey,
Lets have some love and peace :)
We all are counterpart of each other ( I mean male and female ).
This is not first time we are into this argument ;).
I think every one is important for us, mother, father, friends, Girl Friend(S), enemies.... All are required.
But yes as a man I would love to be a women's man. To protect her, to keep her happy. And for that I will need her love and support to be strong
"You Needed me"
Thanks
It was nice reading everyone's opinion about the topic. Thanks a lot for taking time and putting down your individual thoughts here :)
CHEERS!!!
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