All women will hate me as I write this… But what the heck!!! Girls… time to grow up.
Men by nature are a proud bunch… well proud may not be the right term; maybe boastful or bigheaded is a better term. When with buddies, we do not like to talk about our problems… especially the ones relating to the opposite sex… we may talk about our work, boss, cars, inflation, economy, stocks, favorite team losing in sports, politicians, friends, school days etc. When it comes to a wife / girlfriend, a man wants to show that he made the best selection. I am single, so I would pen down my views on this. I have married friends who hate bachelors like me for the freedom we have. They forget that they too faced their own sets of problems and issues while they were enjoying the bachelorhood.
I was at Lamcy food court where a group of women were enjoying their kitty party stuff. Eves dropping is not a good act; but talking and high-pitched talking are two different terms. I heard one lady complaining about her husband… “Yesterday I had to work till 7 and was so tired… when I got home I saw him playing video games with the kids. Their home work was not done, dinner was not ready and the house was a mess”. One of her friends, after extending some sympathy spoke… “Oh Dear… I feel so sorry for you but this is nothing; he did the same things and on top of that he had the guts to invite his friends for dinner.” The third lady came up with an even worse scenario… “My back was hurting so bad… I had a headache and he went to play squash with his friends leaving me with his relatives who are very critical of everything I do, and on returning, he simply sat down complaining that he was tired and drank beer all evening”.
HUSH!!!
A man on the other hand will go home to find that the kids are screaming, dinner is burnt, his wife is shabbily dressed and in a horrible mood, she would give him the fearful look and say “Your son does not know anything about mathematics… apparently he gets his genes from your side of the family… teach him some maths; the laundry is in the washer… put them in the dryer and then fold the clothes and order some take out; in dealing with your daughter… who by the way is getting to act like your mom. I forgot about dinner and it is now burnt; I have a headache and I am going to bed”.
Next time when this guy is out with his buddies he will present a totally different picture… “Guys, last evening when I went home she was all dressed up, she made my favorite dish and she had sent the kids out to play with friends. Man she looked sexy. We had a nice, quiet and romantic dinner”. On hearing this… his buddies will feel jealous and will try to beat it.
HMMM…
Note: This is just some random observation and generalization. The feelings expressed here are not necessarily mine or that of any of my friends’. Anything which resembles in your lifehere, is purely coincidental and is highly regretted ;)
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Ok My dear friend, there are some good points for you -
1. The KIDS and Home are our's - So we both need to handle that.
2. Sometime we complain about things, even they are good for us. I found many husbands complaining about their wife. But wife are better than them
3. This is really a foolish statement "Understand women".
4. The only difference between discussions of men and women is that, women are honest ( sometimes complain more ) and men showoff ( sometimes too much, just to show that they are great and so lucky )
5. Yes but if you are talking about Mamta Banerjee, Mayawati, Jaylalita, then I agree with you.
I want to write more and more, but I need to work so that I can earn money for "We"
I completely agree with Shailendra. Women are very honest and men DO show off. Men are in this constant battle with others to prove that they've made the right choice in terms of marriage and their wife is a replica of Sita. On the other hand women are open and discuss their issues forthright to get suggestions from other married women or to get insight on men. Unlike men, women don't leave the problems on their own but try to make the relationship better by discussing. Secondly both men and women percieve things differently.. Women may get paranoid on one thing and men on another and both may consider each other's reaction over the top. but dont forget that both are right in their own way. Dont compatre the two as you can not do without a woman. A Man think that all the household problems are women's responsibility and leave it at that to go out, and have a few drinks with his buddies where as a woman would prefer her man to share the responsibility, just like she is sharing the financial responsibility with her husband. All I can say is that try and be a better husband than a critic on women.
Hello Shipra,
My Intention here is not to say who is better A Man or Women.
Whatever I have written above is my experience. But I think before somebody is a Man or a Woman, they are human. To be a good Man or Women, first you need to be a good human. There are so many things which are not affected by "Gender". Basically we have problem in system and roles we play.
I am sure if you come to Europe, you will see something different from INDIA. And if you can exchange Roles. Lets say Women is a Husband and Man is a Wife, the things will change.
I think my Brother Baiju is doing same mistake as others, there should be no discussion on topic like this. It all depends on Mutul understanding, and which is base of relationship ( We call it marriage )
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